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Talking With Children
Families & Coping With HD
What Young People Think~HD
HD & Me: A Guide For Young People
Do You Have A Sibling With HD?
SECTION 2 - Knowledge!
What Is Abuse?
What Are Signs of Abuse?
What Is Attention Deficit? (AD-HD)
Emotional~Helping Your Child
Alcoholic Parent? What You Should Know
How Do I Handle Anger?
What Is Anxiety?
How Do I Handle Bad Moods?
What Is A Bipolar Disorder?
How Does My Brain Work?
What Are My Brain Parts?
Brain Foods & Actions
What Is A Chronic Illness?
Handout: 25 Tips To Help Someone
What Is Depression?
Are You Depressed?
What Happens On A Physical Exam?
What Will Happen At A Hospital?
What Is A Drug/Drinking Problem?
How Can Drugs Harm Me?
What Are Epilepsy~Seizures?
Do My Feelings Matter?
All About Genes
Explain Hyperactivity To Me
What's It Like Living With JHD?
~JHD HDSA Project
What Is A Learning Disability?
How DO Medicines Work?
How Does Our Memory Work?
What Is Obsessive Compulsive?
What Is An Occupational Therapist?
What Senses Pain?
What Is Physical Therapy?
What Is Speech Therapy?
What Is A Psychologist? Psychiatrist?
Thinking About Running Away?
Why Do I Feel Sad?
Why Is Sleep Important?
Special Needs Kids-What's It Like?
Feeling Stressed Out?
Suicide~Helping A Friend
Does Talking To Parents Help?
What About Teens & Suicide?
What Is Seeing A Therapist Like?
Tell Me About Wheelchair Use
Tell Me About Dying
~ Grief
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How Do I Handle Anger?

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                                                  Ooops, better not lose my cool!
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For Kids
Your mom just told you there's no way she's letting you out of
the house until you clean your room - as if you were about 6
years old. What starts out as mild annoyance turns into red-hot
anger as you pick up the magazines and dishes from your floor.
How dare she? You're not a child! Before you know it, you've
kicked a big dent in your closet door and yelled at your little sister
(and now you're grounded for the whole weekend).

Well, this is one way to cope with anger. After all, you've expressed
yourself and you've calmed down. And now you'll have lots of time
to think about how it may not have been the best approach as
you sit around watching reruns with you sister on Saturday night.
Why'd you fly off the handle so quickly? In fact, some days you
wake up angry - what's the deal?

Some of it may be the changes your body's going through - all those
hormones you hear so much about can cause wild mood swings and
confused emotions. Some of it may be stress - people who're under
a lot of pressure tend to get angry more easily. And part of it may
be your personality - you may just be someone who has a short
fuse. Or maybe you're the type of person who gets more and more
mad until you finally blow up. But no matter what the cause, you're
sure to get angry sometimes. And that's OK.  There's nothing wrong
with feeling mad.

What you want to learn is how to identify the fact that you're ticked
and deal with it effectively - that is, in ways that don't get you

One productive way to deal with your anger (one that works great with
parents in particular) is the "cool down" approach. Here it is in four
easy steps:
  • When something gets you really steamed, try to stop,
    calm down, and think before you do or say anything.
  • Once you're calm, try to say what the problem is and
    how it makes you feel. ("Mom, I don't like it when you
    hand out a punishment before you've even given me
    the chance to do what you've asked. It makes me
    feel like a little kid.")
  • Try to think of some solutions and what the consequences
    of the solutions would be (one solution here would be not
    cleaning your room - but if you thought about it, you'd
    see where that would get you).
  • Explain your solution and try to put it into action. ("In the
    future, would you please tell me what you'd like me to do
    first and wait to see if I do it before you threaten punishment?")
This can turn out well for everyone - you focus your attention on stopping
your anger, you get to say how you feel, and hopefully, your mom won't
talk to you in that way that enrages you again. But if this approach sounds
a little too formal, there are other things you can do. Here's a list of
  • Listen to music (with your headphones on) and
    dance with some anger-inspired energy.
  • Write it down - in any form, poetry or a journal for example.
  • Play a sport or work out.
  • Meditate or practice deep breathing.
  • Talk about your feelings with someone you trust. (Lots of
    times there are other feelings such as fear or sadness
    underlying anger. Talking about these feelings can help.)
  • Distract yourself - watch TV or go to the movies.
You might even try going somewhere secluded and yelling at the top of your
lungs. What we don't recommend is screaming at the person you're mad at,
whining, sulking, or any kind of physical threat or attack. These things are
likely to escalate the situation - and maybe even hurt someone.

Tell your parents, a teacher, a counselor, or another adult you trust if you:
  • have a persistent feeling of anger over things that have
    happened to you in the past
  • feel consistent rage at yourself
  • start feeling anger that lasts for days or makes you
    want to hurt yourself or someone else
These could be signs of depression - and you shouldn't have to handle that
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