In every family there is the risk of a divorce. In an HD family that risk
might increase for several reasons including financial ones. No matter
what the reason for a divorce may be, your child needs to understand
that the divorce was not caused by them and that they are still very
special and loved by both parents.
Shortly after I divorced Kelly's father I was talking on the phone with a
friend one night (rehashing the abuse I had put up with) when Kelly
came running out of her bedroom. I thought she had been sound asleep.
I had never talked badly about her father or our marriage in front of her.
Kelly was a little over 5 years old and she was crying. She gave me a
big hug and said how happy she was that it was "daddy hurting me that
we got a divorce and not because she was a bad girl". I was astonished.
We never know what are children are thinking. It's important to keep
reminding the child how much they are loved and how they had absolutely
nothing to do with your decision to get a divorce.
